Vibrator - How to use a bullet rabbit and wand vibrator
Not sure how to use a vibrator? Here’s expert advice on how to use a rabbit vibrator, how to use a bullet vibrator and basically any sex toy.
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Megan Wallace, Paige Vahla and Lois ShearingUpdated: 23 May 2024
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It’s important to keep in mind that everyone is different and for such an intimate toy, you will need to find a vibe that works for your body.
There are so many types to choose from and although it’s great to have options it can be kind of intimidating if you’re not sure where to start.
Bullet vibrators
Beginners might want to try out a bullet vibrator - these are small, powerful vibrators perfect for clitoral stimulation. Due to their discreet size and accessible shape, bullet vibes are a really solid option for your first-time vibrator. They also tend to be subtle, quiet and cheap.
How to use a bullet vibrator
You’re in luck, bullet vibrators are so easy to use, and super effective! Slip some water-based lube onto the bullet with your hand, or by applying directly.
Start with the bullet vibrator on its lowest setting and gently move it around your vulva. We’d recommend beginning around the labia and then progressing to circling the clitoris, steadily working your way in towards your clitoris as you become more comfortable and turned on.
Cavan ImagesYou can also try direct contact on the clitoris if you want – keep in mind that some people love this whereas others find that their clit is too sensitive. There is no “normal” way to respond to direct clit stimulation, so don’t feel bad if it’s a bit too much.
Remember that you can use the bullet in whatever way feels good for you. Once you’re accustomed to and enjoying the lowest setting, you can begin to experiment: slowly working your way up and finding a pattern or speed that you enjoy.
The affordable bullet vibrator for beginners
The Lovehoney Excite is one of the best bullet vibrators out there and, good news, it’s super affordable. It has 10 speed and pattern settings (compared to most standard bullets, which have only one), and a pointed tip for targeted stimulation. It’s great value for money and feels amazing, just make sure you stock up on batteries!
Lovehoney Excite Bullet Vibrator
£12.99 at Lovehoney
The rechargeable bullet vibrator
Looking for a re-chargeable bullet vibrator? We’ve got just the thing. The Desire Luxury Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator is super powerful, boasting 3 speeds and 17 vibration patterns.
It’s also extra quiet, meaning you don’t have to worry about housemates hearing, and waterproof so you can use it in the bath or shower. It’s made from good quality silicone and has an angled tip that lets you choose between precise stimulation or widespread vibrations. And to top it all off, it comes with a storage case where the toy can be charged discreetly.
Lovehoney Desire Desire Luxury Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator
£59.99 at Lovehoney
The luxury bullet vibrator
If you know your way around a bullet vibrator and have outgrown the single-speed versions, consider upgrading with the Mia 2 from LELO. With with a pricier RRP of £79, it’s a bestseller for a reason.
Made with discretion in mind, you can’t even really tell that it’s a vibrator until you take the cap off. It’s got a sculpted tip, meaning you can use it for accurate stimulation that you can move around your vulva and clitoris to suit your body and preferences. It *also* comes with a one-year warranty, is waterproof and has a total of six powerful vibration settings.
Lelo MIA™ 2 Black
Shop at LELO
Rabbit vibrators
Looking for your happy ending? Give a rabbit vibrator a try. This variety of toy stimulates both your clit and your G-spot, and as a result is renowned for introducing women and people with vaginas to what is known as a ‘blended orgasm’ (in short, an orgasm that occurs when two erogenous zones are stimulated simultaneously, like the clitoris and the G-spot).
How to use a rabbit vibrator
If you’ve never used a rabbit vibrator before, you may well be feeling intimidated. Take the pressure off: start slowly and don’t rush. Make sure you use lots of water-based lube in order to maximise comfort and pleasure. Then, get things started by setting the vibrator as low as possible and seeing how that feels.
There are plenty of different motions you can try but the most important thing is listening to your body and trying out what feels good, you make the rules! Try holding the rabbit vibrator inside you while it vibrates, and at the same time move the rabbit ears over your clitoris. Or you might want to moving the shaft in a thrusting motion as you would with penetration, and positioning the rabbit ears to come into contact with your clit as you do.
The more comfortable and turned on you become, you might want to work your way up to the higher settings. Keep in mind that you can operate the shaft and rabbit ears separately on some toys, so try a bit of both or just one to discover what works best for you.
The affordable rabbit vibrator for beginners
If you haven’t used a rabbit vibe before, maybe opt for a cheaper and smaller option. The Happy Rabbit vibrators aren’t too intimidating in size, with an insertable length of four inches and the mini version starts from £44.99.
But if you want to spend even less than that, the Frisky Rabbit Vibrator is a really good shout at £24.99. It’s super cute and small, has 10 vibration settings and patterns, and is made from silicone.
Lovehoney Frisky 10 Function Silicone Rabbit Vibrator
£24.99 at Lovehoney
The thrusting rabbit vibrator
Step up your rabbit vibrator with thrusting vibrators. As well as doing what all other rabbits do, it also thrusts inside you and mimics IRL penetration. This Dream Thrusting Rabbit Vibrator is a bestseller thanks to its 3 ear speeds, 7 ear patterns, and 3 thrusting settings.
Lovehoney Dream Rabbit Rechargeable Silicone Thrusting Rabbit Vibrator
£69.99 at Lovehoney
The luxury rabbit vibrator
For anyone looking for a more luxe option, the Womanizer Duo elevates the rabbit vibrator to almost beyond recognition. In addition to the vibrating shaft boasting by classic rabbit vibrators, it also has a clit sucker function.
That’s right, instead of the rabbit ears that vibrate against your clitoris, the Duo nestles into your clit and without coming into contact, sends out pressure waves that mimic the feeling of oral sex.
Womanizer How to use a vibrator: Womanizer DUO
£132 at womanizer.com
Classic vibrators
Classic vibrators are made in the classic shaft shape and taper at the end. A great one for beginners is Lovehoney’s silencer whisper vibrator.
How to use a classic vibrator
Since classic vibrators place the emphasis internal stimulation, they’re super easy to use for anyone that already likes penetration. Start by covering the vibrator with water-based lube and slowly inserting it.
You can turn the vibrations on before you do this or once it’s inside. Whether you have the choice ultimately depends on the product you go for and where exactly the buttons are placed - some are easy to operate while in use whereas others, not so much.
Start on the lowest setting and hold the vibrator inside you. When you’re feeling nice and comfortable you can move it in and out, around, and work your way through the vibration settings.
Lovehoney Silencer Whisper Quiet Classic Vibrator 7 Inch
£19.99 at Lovehoney Classic vibrators put internal vibrations at the forefront of the experience and don’t simultaneously vibrating against your clitoris or G-spot, like other types of vibrators. Considering the majority of women and people with vaginas require clit stimulation to orgasm, classic vibrators aren’t always the most popular style. But, you can use them alongside over vibes for clitoral and internal stimulations, or if that seems a bit much - go old school and rub your clit (or ask a partner to do it for you) at the same time.
Wand vibrators
Wand vibrators are a super handy tool. Famed for giving the ultimate orgasms, they evolved from neck massagers designed to relieve tired muscles, until people with vulvas stumbled upon how the powerful vibrations doubled up for giving expert clitoral stimulation.
How to use a wand vibrator
Wand vibrators look pretty big and, admittedly, they are powerful. But don’t be too intimidated - they’re only used externally. As with all other vibrators, you can use it in whichever way feels good for you, it’s all about feeling that out and having fun in the process.
To start with, put it on the lowest setting, and make sure to place lots of water-based lube on the end and/or on your vulva. Gently move the head of the wand around different areas of your vulva to see which placement feels good for you.
You might want to start from the outside and work your way in towards the clitoris. Alternatively, you can hold it against the front of your vulva so it comes into contact with as much clit and labia as you like.
From there, you can move it up and down, around, or however you fancy. Once you’re turned on, it’s worth experimenting with the different settings and working your way through to see what you like.
The affordable wand vibrator for beginners
If you want something smaller and have a lower budget, Lovehoney’s mini wand vibrators are a good beginner’s toy as they’re not remotely intimidating and have 3 vibration speeds to get you started.
Lovehoney How to use a vibrator: Lovehoney Deluxe Rechargeable Mini Massage Wand Vibrator
£44.99 at Lovehoney
The great everyday wand vibrator
If you’re after something reliable that can be stowed in your bedside drawer/sex box and called upon when the time is right, the So Divine Wand Vibrator is perfect. Not only is it rechargeable (a major plus!) and 100 per cent waterproof, it’s made from the silkiest silicone that feels great against the skin. It also has 10 powerful vibration settings, including 3 speeds and 7 functions.
So Divine Wicked Game Magic Wand Purple Massaging Classic Vibrator, 3 speed options + 7 pulsating passion patterns, Waterproof, USB rechargeable.
£54.99 at Amazon
The sex editor-approved wand vibrator
For those after something a little more advanced, the LELO SMART WAND™ 2 Large is a best-selling multi-functional vibe that features 10 rumbly speeds for intense, stimulating pleasure. See for yourself what the hype is about.
lelo SMART WAND™ 2 Large
$199 at LELO
G-spot vibrators
G-spot vibrators are tilted at the end, helping them touch the inner front wall of the vagina where the G-spot is said to be located.
How to use G-spot vibrators
Like classic vibrators, G-Spot vibrators are created with internal use in mind. As always, make sure you are using lots of water-based lube, switch it onto the lowest vibration setting and slowly insert the G-spot vibrator.
Hold it inside you, and take stock of how the vibrations feel. From there, you can move the vibrator in and out, move it around in circular motions, or simply hold it inside you as you explore the settings. If you fancy a touch of clit stimulation at the same time, use your fingers to stroke your clitoris.
The beginners’ G-spot vibrator
For a cheaper option, the Lovehoney G-Slim G-Spot Vibrator is a steal. Not only is it rechargeable but with its slim design, it is such a great beginner’s G-Spot toy – especially for the price.
Lovehoney G-Slim Rechargeable G-Spot Vibrator
£32.99 at Lovehoney
The everyday G-spot vibrator
For a slightly higher price tag, the Desire Luxury Rechargeable Curved G-Spot Vibrator is well worth it. It has 12 levels of adjustable intensity, is made from really soft, lovely-feeling silicone that slides against the skin. It also comes with a storage case and you can charge the toy discreetly inside the case.
Lovehoney Desire Desire Luxury Rechargeable Curved G-Spot Vibrator
£69.99 at Lovehoney
The *luxury* G-spot vibrator
At £139, Lelo’s Gigi 2 is a great option for anyone with a bit more to spend. It also has a “unique massaging pearl for targeted pleasure”. They say, “The world-famous GIGI™ 2 takes G-spot orgasms to a whole new level. Its curved and flattened tip accurately targets your G-spot perfectly for exhilarating solo pleasure, every time.”
lelo How to use a vibrator: GIGI™ 2
$109 at LELO A few extra tips
Now that you’re a pro at using a vibrator for solo play, here’s a few extra tips on how they can take your sex life to the next level:
Using the vibrator all over
You’d be surprised just how much variation there is in the clitoris, don’t forget that it actually extends around the labia beneath the surface. As you become more experienced, you can achieve a fantastic level of precision with a good vibrator.
Some people with vaginas say a particular side of their clitoris is more sensitive, whereas others might prefer to stimulate somewhere just above or below. If you’re especially sensitive, you can try using it outside the labia. By covering the clit, the vibrations are slightly more subtle, which gives you a slower build up to orgasm.
Try edging with a vibrator
When you get more familiar with your vibrator, you can experiment with some really exciting techniques, such as ‘edging.’ This is when you bring yourself close to the ‘edge’ of orgasm but don’t quite push yourself over it. You repeat this several times until you’re in a super-heightened state of arousal and any touch makes you feel like you might explode. Sounds good, right? Well, it’s even more fun with a great vibe.
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Explore those vibrator settings!
Toys are more and more sophisticated and nowadays come with a whole range of different settings, perfect for both timid first timers who enjoy gentler vibrations to those who relish concrete-smashing power when it comes to getting off. When you get a new toy, try out each pattern and speed setting as you might discover you like a sensation you never thought you would.
Using vibrators during partnered sex
Using a vibrator with a partner is a great way to elevate your sex and explore new sensations with each other. Just make sure to check with your partner first, before you start whipping out new equipment.
If you’re partner has a penis, give the nipples, balls, or the sensitive frenulum just under the head of their penis a buzz. Plus, a small vibe like a bullet can even be used to stimulate the clitoris during missionary intercourse – it won’t even get in the way.
If your partner has a vulva, there’s a whole host of options available for you! Ask them how they like to use a vibrator and show them how you do; and feel free to start swapping around. You can also use vibrators instead of or alongside strap-ons for penetrative sex. There’s no rule book; the fun is in exploring!
Once you’re done exploring, don’t forget to clean your toys.
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Megan WallaceFormer Sex and Relationships EditorMegan Wallace (they/them) is Cosmopolitan UK’s Former Sex and Relationships Editor covering sexual pleasure, sex toys, LGBTQIA+ identity, dating and romance. They have covered sexuality and relationships for over five years and are the founder of the PULP zine, which publishes essays on culture and sex. In their spare time, they can be found exploring the London kink scene and planning dates on Feeld.
Paige VahlaFormer Sex & Relationships Editor Paige Vahla (She/Her) is Cosmopolitan UK’s former Sex & Relationships Editor covering all things sex, relationships, friends and family, and LGBTQ+. Think of her as your sex-positive best friend who offers expert insight and first-person perspectives when it comes to exploring the realm of love and sex. Whether you’re updating your sex toy stash, getting over a friendship break-up or need answers to your burning relationship questions - she’s got you covered. You can also follow her on Twitter.
Lois ShearingFormer Senior Sex and Relationship WriterLois Shearing is Cosmoplitan’s Former Senior Sex and Relationship Writer. They have been writing about sex, sexuality, gender, politics, and relationships for almost ten years. Their writing on these topics has appeared in Mashable, The Independent, Metro, The Advocate, and Byline Times, among others. In 2021, they published their first book, Bi the Way with JKP. They are currently working on two other books, set to be published in 2024. In a previous life, they worked as a content marketer and content writer for various tech start-ups. They continue to be interested in the tech sector and its impact on our lives, relationships, and work, with particular regard to the ways AI will shape our relationships in the future. Outside of work, they are deeply passionate about queer community organising, and run the only support resource for bisexual survivors of sexual violence in the UK: the Bi Survivors Network. You can find them on Instagram and X.
Expert consulted:Annabelle Knight Bsc DipAnnabelle Knight Bsc Dip is one of the most relevant experts when it comes to dating, sex and relationships, a certified couples counsellor, qualified life coach and has a diploma in psychosexual therapy. In print Annabelle is Fabulous Magazine’s resident Sexpert, contributor for The Sun, The Metro, The Telegraph and Cosmopolitan magazine on all things sex, dating and relationships and has a weekly full page column in Now Magazine.
FAQ
Is it normal to bleed after using a vibrater?
Post coital bleeding can occur with discharge, itching, or irritation. PCB may occur just once as a single episode or may occur repeatedly. It can occur at any age with sexual penetrative intercourse or with using a sexual toy or vibrator.
Why does vibration feel so good?
Why does vibration feel so good? Vibration is inherently relaxing for most people, assuming it isn’t applied too suddenly or intensely or in an uncomfortable location.5 Nov 2024
What are the effects of a vibrator on the human body?
Vibration can cause changes in tendons, muscles, bones and joints, and can affect the nervous system. Collectively, these effects are known as hand-arm vibration syndrome.
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