How to Use a Vibrator: Tips From Sex and Wellness Experts
Masturbation is completely normal and — believe it or not — beneficial to our health. Seventeen spoke to sex and wellness experts on the best practices for using vibrators.
Here’s what you need to know before catching vibes.
By Samantha OlsonUpdated: Oct 18, 2022 - 
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Believe it or not, solo sex is totally normal and can actually help your mental and physical health. A study by the Indian Journal of Psychological Medicine found that masturbating helps release tension in your body.
“Masturbation is a great stress reliever and the beauty of it is you don’t need to rely on anyone to help you out with it,” Dr. Lincoln says. “It’s also been linked to helping people fall asleep.”
Solo sex not only helps you figure out what gives you pleasure but helps you feel more confident during partnered sex, which can lead to more fulfilling and healthy relationships. Dr. Lincoln adds that there’s no risk of sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy with masturbation.
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In what ways does using a vibrator enhance your sexual experience?
While your hands are great tools for masturbating, using a vibrator can make your alone time more fun. From bullet vibrators to those more advanced, rabbit-inspired toys, there are plenty of options out there to explore different methods of self-pleasure. According to a study by the U.S. Library of Medicine, vibrations increase blood flow and improve both pelvic muscle tone and relaxation, and they’re more likely to help you orgasm.
“Vibrators can be great as they can add extra stimulation to wherever feels good for you, whether it’s the clitoris, in the vagina, or other erogenous zones,” Dr. Lincoln explains. “The ability to take your orgasms into your own hands (and that of your vibrator) is a fantastic way to take charge of your sex life and your pleasure.”
I’m a beginner. How do I actually use a vibrator?
Using a vibrator comes down to your sexual preferences and what makes you feel comfortable.
“Set the mood, take your time, and explore,” Chang suggests. “Find a setting you think is fun and use it on different parts of your body to see how it feels. Remember, there’s no ‘right’ way to pleasure yourself.”
However, there are several things to know before you invest in one of your own. To find the right vibrator (and use it properly), follow the tips below.
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Gain more insight from reviews
Before you drop some money on a vibrator, read the reviews. The style may work well for some people, but it may not be a fit for others. Use specific keywords to find reviews from others looking for a similar experience as you.
“It’s great to know that different kinds of vibrators exist in size, shape, and vibration options, but I think it’s a very personal decision,” Dr. Lincoln says. “The beauty of the internet is that you can virtually browse and purchase one that you think might be right for you without having to step into a store if you are worried about keeping things private.”
Read the instructions
This is a given, but reading the instructions on your new tool will help you ease into it and use it properly. Plus, there may be a few settings and features that you’d probably be unaware of unless you read the instructions. It’s important to understand how the product is meant to be used before you dive into it.
“Toys are meant to bring fun into your experience. Make sure you’re in a comfortable space mentally and physically,” Chang says.
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Make sure it’s properly cleaned
While solo sex prevents pregnancy and STIs, there are also some health risks if you don’t clean sex toys properly. Both Chang and Dr. Lincoln emphasized the importance of cleaning and sterilizing your toys on the reg.
“I make sure to wash and dry my toys after each use,” Chang says. She also explains that you should be using cleaners that are specifically formulated for intimate devices.
“It’s super important to read the instructions of your particular toy to know how to keep it clean and in working order,” Lincoln says.
Clean Porous vs. Nonporous Toys Differently
There are two categories of sex toys — porous and nonporous — that are differentiated by the materials they’re made of. Knowing what your toys are made of is a crucial step in cleaning and sterilizing them properly. Below, find which category your toy may fall under.
Nonporous toys are made of:
- Silicone
- Glass
- Metal
- ABS hard plastic
According to Sara Kloepfer of sex and wellness brand Bellesa, nonporous materials don’t let bacteria through and are generally easy to clean. To clean nonporous toys, you can use toy cleaners and wipes with gentle formulas or unscented soap and water. You can also boil materials like silicone, heat-resistant glass, and stainless steel to cleanse.
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- Hard plastic
- Cyberskin
- Elastomer
- Jelly rubber
- Nylon
- Vinyl
- Acrylic
- Leather
- Neoprene
Kleopfer also noted that porous materials tend to be absorbent, which means they can’t be completely sterilized and should only be cleaned with gentle hand or dish soap and warm water.
Disinfecting versus Cleaning
“Disinfecting and cleaning are two entirely different things, so it’s important to know the difference and sanitize accordingly,” Dr. Lincoln adds.
Think of sterilizing as a deep clean — this method gets rid of bacteria and dry body fluids that remain on your toys after use. Toys should be sterilized if you have a yeast infection if they’re used by more than one person, or after anal use. Even if you’re in the clear when it comes to infections, you should still make a habit to sterilize your toy once in a while.
It’s important to note that only nonporous toys can be sterilized, and you’ll need to use strong ingredients like alcohol and bleach to properly rid of the germs. If you go for the bleach, Kleopfer recommends using a 10% bleach-to-water solution before rinsing well.
Finally, when it comes to vibrators, it’s best not to let a friend try it out. “It’s best not to share toys but if you do, using a condom and disinfecting it is one way to make it safer,” Lincoln says.
Check if the battery is full
The last thing you want is for your vibrator to lose its juice before you hit your sweet spot. If your toy is battery-operated, make sure you have some fresh ones handy. Some toys are rechargeable — just make sure it’s fully charged before you start your solo sesh, because it’s not recommended for use while plugged in.
Have some lubricant handy
This step is optional, but lubricant can be helpful to reduce the friction that might cause discomfort. It’s important to note that the kind of lube you use depends on the material of your vibrator. For example, if the vibrator is made of silicone, a water-based lube will help preserve the material and avoid damaging it.
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Stop if you feel uncomfortable
In any sexual experience — with a partner or solo — you have the authority over what makes you feel good. “You know your body. Don’t continue use if it hurts. Toys are designed with specific anatomy in mind, so make sure to use the right products for the designated body part,” Chang says.
If something doesn’t feel right or comfortable, it’s okay to stop. You can always revisit your vibe another time when you’re ready.
Samantha OlsonAssistant News EditorSam is an assistant news editor at Cosmo, covering all things pop culture, entertainment, and celebrity news. She previously covered those same topics along with health, lifestyle, and beauty at Seventeen. When she isn’t catching a concert or live-tweeting awards shows, you can likely find her judging DJ sets at parties.
FAQ
Is it normal to bleed after using a vibrater?
Post coital bleeding can occur with discharge, itching, or irritation. PCB may occur just once as a single episode or may occur repeatedly. It can occur at any age with sexual penetrative intercourse or with using a sexual toy or vibrator.
What are the effects of a vibrator on the human body?
Vibration can cause changes in tendons, muscles, bones and joints, and can affect the nervous system. Collectively, these effects are known as hand-arm vibration syndrome.
Why does vibration feel so good?
Why does vibration feel so good? Vibration is inherently relaxing for most people, assuming it isn’t applied too suddenly or intensely or in an uncomfortable location.5 Nov 2024
Is it normal to bleed after using a vibrater?
Post coital bleeding can occur with discharge, itching, or irritation. PCB may occur just once as a single episode or may occur repeatedly. It can occur at any age with sexual penetrative intercourse or with using a sexual toy or vibrator.
What are the effects of a vibrator on the human body?
Vibration can cause changes in tendons, muscles, bones and joints, and can affect the nervous system. Collectively, these effects are known as hand-arm vibration syndrome.
Why does vibration feel so good?
Why does vibration feel so good? Vibration is inherently relaxing for most people, assuming it isn’t applied too suddenly or intensely or in an uncomfortable location.5 Nov 2024
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